• squirefromtheshire@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I used to be one of those “serial Monogamists”, which is just a pretty way of saying “severely codependent”.

    After my first serious relationship in high school, I never went more than 6 months between relationships, of which there were a total of three between the ages of 18 and 30. The last one lasted 8 years and after getting away I realized I was happy for about 4 of them.

    I’ve been single for almost two years now and for the first time in my life, I feel like I truly understand what it means to live for myself and not have my #1 focus and priority be another person.

    Feels good.

    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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      1 year ago

      I eventually realized there’s no one that’s made me consistently happier than I was just being single. All my relationships have come with so much extra baggage that just wasn’t worth the trouble.