I work a physical/tactile job in healthcare. My job won’t be in danger until robotics dramatically advance and cheapen. AI could conceptually do my job, but the physicality is missing. A lot of healthcare careers are this way. Not all of them are though, so be wise in your choice!

Is this a new copypasta?

It’s difficult, man. It will probably make you happier if you could just forget about it, but brains don’t work that way. Plus some people just seem to be way better at it than others.

A mildly traumatic thing happened in my workplace. I have plenty of functional days, but other days things return to my brain without my inviting them and it makes it more difficult to function. Sometimes I get transported back into time like I’m there.

One thing I read about is the concept of mental “time traveling”. When we remember these things, it’s like we are literally back in that very moment. But that is not what is happening right at this very moment. You are “safe”. You are not back in time being harmed right now.

Is it wise to not trust her anymore if she has proven herself to be untrustworthy? Absolutely.

But in order to free yourself better, you have to first notice that you are time traveling. Then look at things in your environment. Not her, but try to take in all of the sensory input around you. Remind yourself that you are here, not there. Recognize that the only time that exists is right now. Even one second in the past no longer exists and even one second in the future doesn’t exist yet. Work with what is around you now.

Idk if that is at all helpful, just something that I have read about lately. Way fucking easier said than done because I still struggle.

Wishing you well.

…first sold in 1951 as the “Chicken Roll” despite not actually containing chicken…

Wut

I’m not going to sit here and do a bunch of research for you. Here’s one of the first links I found that went in to detail of how much of a disparity black women have in medical care versus white women and occasionally comparing to white men. It also talks a bit about poverty issues: https://www.networkforphl.org/news-insights/racial-disparities-in-womens-health

This is by all means not a comprehensive list of disparities, nor do I have interest in seeking out enough links to write a formal debate paper.

Again, you’re really being incredibly unproductive with your shitty “us versus them” mentality. What are you even trying to achieve here? You want everyone to cry for you? Your struggles don’t negate everyone else’s.

Let me clarify. I wasn’t speaking about majority groups (white people). Denying that women of color have significant difficulty is just flat out wrong and not helpful. Do women of color have it way better in the US than in, say, the Democratic Republic of the Congo? Absolutely. Does it mean that they are anywhere even remotely on the level of the majority group (white people)? Absolutely not. Comparing the suffering between various minority groups is not productive or fair, and reads as incredibly dismissive of real issues.

OP, instead of immediately attacking you, I do kind of get what you’re trying to say. Here’s the thing though…both have it incredibly shit. It’s just that the ways in which it is shit differ a bit between the populace. It’s more like comparing apples to oranges imo.

But hypothetically, if you were to sit down and try your hardest to really figure out who has it marginally worse than the other, you’re just doing everyone a disservice anyway. Like, just because one person’s life might objectively be worse than someone else’s doesn’t mean that that someone else’s suffering is suddenly cancelled out and unimportant.

I’ll use some extreme examples. Suppose one person was bullied relentlessly in school. Suppose another person was sexually assaulted. Could we sit here and hem and haw and compare the degree of suffering between the two? Sure. And I’m sure most would say the sexual assault was objectively worse. But we shouldn’t use that to cancel out the suffering of the person who was bullied. Both experienced hardship and suffering, even if one seems objectively “worse” than the other.

It’s important to recognize the suffering of both individuals. Using an “us versus them” mentality or otherwise trying to compare the two just ends up harming both parties and losing the plot.

Damn I’m really sorry to hear you don’t like it. :(

What did you do beforehand if you don’t mind me asking?

My mom was a stay at home parent for all of my life. In her early 50s, she ended up going to college in order to become a nurse. Been over 10 years now and she’s still a nurse.

I would say it’s only ever really too late if you’re beyond working age or nearly there. Because at that point you’re no longer working toward a career.

The real issue is whether or not you have finances and a support system to get you there.

In my mom’s case, she had a husband who already was the only breadwinner anyway, so it didn’t cause much of a financial impact per se. My mom ended up taking out student loans like everyone else, of course, but student loans are seen much more favorably than credit card debt.

I have a friend who is going back to college right now in order to get a better job. In their scenario, their parent let them move back in while they get an education.

I ended up eventually going to an intensive grad school where many of us had to move and we also did not have time to work during the program. There, I met plenty of people who already married, already had careers, etc…and yet they still managed to survive and get through the program just fine. (Again, remember we all took out loans lol.)

Then you hear online about med students having children while going through med school and residency. Sounds like hell, but they manage to do it.

But also, the career you seek should be worth it. Don’t go back to school to do one of those dumb “ingegrative studies” degree or whichever one they call it when you couldn’t pick a major lmao. Won’t net you anything.

Similarly, it wouldn’t make sense someone in their 50s to attempt to go to med school. The return on investment is just not there for the amount of effort and loan debt if you consider how many working years you have left. Yet, as I said, it was worth it for my mom to become a nurse because she never worked before and it allowed her to be able to earn a living wage sooner and with less debt. The return on investment for her was greater.

Point is, I don’t think it’s a matter of “too late”, but rather a matter of…

1. Life circumstances
2. The specific career you are working towards

I am kill

Seems to be unpopular to admit in this post, but I use food delivery apps. Yes, the fees are ridiculous, but I can afford it. I don’t do it every day, but I do at least once a week.

I hate cooking and I hate dishes. It’s never pleasant. No, I can’t personally make something at home “better than most takeouts”. If you can, good for you. It’s not for me and I’m lucky that I am able to get takeout.

Honestly, I don’t know how in the world one human is able to keep up with working 40 hours a week, cook, dishes, laundry, clean, etc. It’s all too much for me. Hell, the state of my laundry has been insane the last several weeks.

Do you get to see a lot more stars out at night there?

Seems kind of silly…but the downtown started this tradition years back in coating the entire facade of the buildings in Christmas lights…not in a gaudy, cheesy way, but one single color per building. One shop would be blue and the shop next door would be red, etc. It started to become “known” in the area that this town would have the most lights ever in the downtown. They basically made a festival every year about it and more and more visitors seemed to come from out of town. And as time went on, more and more business neighboring the downtown started taking part. It looks amazing at night…every single building entirely lit up in a different color. I haven’t seen it in years…I guess it’ll be almost 10 at this point.

Agreed, @sprigatito_bread@lemmy.world. Get a job. Any job. Ideally one that could pay a bit more than minimum wage and/or one tangentially related to the field you want to go into. But you can’t afford to be too picky. That’s step one.

Step two, move out. I know you said you don’t have friends. You don’t need them. But you need to find a roommate because you’re unlikely to be able to afford to live on your own.

https://www.reddit.com/r/roommates/comments/1fipamp/best_roommate_finding_apps/

This reddit link has some ideas/websites to try for step two. It’s not an exhaustive list on how to find a roommate, but it’s a start.

My cat doesn’t seem to treat me any more loving when I’m having a visibly hard time lol.

But it’s ok because likes to be close anyway.

Check out the mental health community that MonsterTrick posted. It’s fairly active!

Why do you keep posting Patreon links???

Same! Literally always greets me at the door with nonstop meowing! Hell, sometimes I even get this response when I walk into another room and then walk back in!!

What?

This is me but with running