Yeah, people who have experienced it understand that you don’t “try” gaslighting. People who do it are just constantly doing it, usually without even needing to try - it’s just their natural state to counter the things other people say. It works not by making someone believe a lie, but by wearing them down slowly, showing such confidence in something that the victim sees as being so clearly incorrect that they can’t help but think that maybe they’re the problem.
Nailed it. Had best friends and exes that are like this. Took some therapy to realize the abuse that I endured and internalized. Still work on avoiding these types of relationships, they are gravitational.
Yeah, people who have experienced it understand that you don’t “try” gaslighting. People who do it are just constantly doing it, usually without even needing to try - it’s just their natural state to counter the things other people say. It works not by making someone believe a lie, but by wearing them down slowly, showing such confidence in something that the victim sees as being so clearly incorrect that they can’t help but think that maybe they’re the problem.
Nailed it. Had best friends and exes that are like this. Took some therapy to realize the abuse that I endured and internalized. Still work on avoiding these types of relationships, they are gravitational.