Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe “team up” as groups or something?

And yeah polygamy is a thing but do you think it will catch on to “the upper class”?

  • June@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I brought up patriarchy because polygamy polygyny (one man, multiple wives) is inherently patriarchal. Same as polygyny polyandry (one woman many husbands) being matriarchal. While polyamory is genderless and everyone is free to pursue their own relationships.

    This isn’t a controversial take. I never excluded men from the equation, I simply pointed out that polyamory is different from polygamy in that women can have more than one partner as well, something that polygamy doesn’t allow.

    The rest of your comment here is word salad and idk what you’re getting at. But the basis of your offense is rooted in a my own misunderstanding of the conversation and terms being referred to.

    Edit: I got some terminology wrong and thought polygamy was one man multiple women, but the term just refers to having multiple spouses. Polygyny is one man multiple women. Which def means I took the conversation down a weird hole.

    • Dr. Quadragon ❌@mastodon.ml
      1·
      1 year ago

      @June I’m sorry? but isn’t:

      polyandry = multiple male partners
      polygyny = multiple female partners
      polygamy = multiple whatever partners?

      Just so that we’re on the same page?

      (source: quick google search to verify that I’m not crazy)

      @neshura

      • June@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        Oh hey, I learned something, thank you. Not sure where I got my definitions from but I’d have sworn i had it right, but polygamy is just the practice of having multiple spouses, you’re right.

        I’d done a fair bit of research on it a while ago and either had bad info or bad memory. Thanks for the correction! I’ll go make edits and let that other person know I got the terminology wrong.

    • Neshura@bookwormstory.socialEnglish
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      1 year ago

      polygamy (one man, multiple wives) is inherently patriarchal. Same as polygyny (one woman many husbands)

      right, I can see why we talked past each other. When I hear polygamy I understand that as one person with mutiple partners (imagine the spoke of a wheel) whereas I understand polyamory as a web. I don’t differentiate between the genders because frankly it doesn’t make a lick of sense to do so imo. If you’re gonna be fine with one you should be fine with the other type of deal.

      Word salad was mostly me not even knowing how the second person chpping in here got seemingly so offended and trying to overexplain.

      Wouldn’t really say it was an offense, got offended by the second person accusing me of a “baseless attack” though. Just tired of both extremes so I get pissy when I see either (the “all men pigs” and “women belong to the kitchen” extremes). Definitely should have asked for clarification though.

      • June@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        Hey, just wanted to follow up that you had the definition of polygamy right and I had it wrong. I got polygamy and polygyny melded together in my head, but polygamy is the blanket term for having multiple spouses and polygyny is one man multiple wives. I kinda set us up for this misunderstanding and wanted to own that and make sure you knew.