• Honytawk@feddit.nl
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      Normal mainly implies average.

      The average person has a spouse and a kid. So the statement is not wrong.

      Doesn’t mean you can’t have a normal life without a wife or a kid. It just doesn’t mean average then.

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          The average man has one testicle, the average woman one breast and they both only have one eye.

          There might be some better way of measuring this than a mathematical average, some means of describing the most common grouping in a given cohort, but that’s for smarter men than I.

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            If we’re being pedantic, the average man has most of two testicles, and the average woman most of two breasts. The average human will have almost one of each :p

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        Doesn’t mean you can’t have a normal life without a wife or a kid. It just doesn’t mean average then.

        wait. so normal means average, or normal does not mean average?

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        Its a normative statement. It contributes to alienating people without wives or kids.

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          Only if you take it that way and if you choose to do so that is on you.

          Im the guy who wrote the post. Im an aromantic bisexual, would call that normal? I also have no kids

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            Perhaps I came off as too hostile. I read your comment and I thought it was potentially harmful and I’m incredibly depressed, so I wrote a hasty sniping response. I tend to think of things said as their effects in aggregate rather than the virtue of the person saying it.

            I’m also bi and arguably aromantic. And intend to remain childfree.

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        I consider it normative to suggest that such is “normal” and suggests not having a wife or kid(s) as “abnormal”. At least by implication.

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          Yeah, it’s rather normal to have a wife and progeny, most people do, that’s what normal means. You seem to be fishing for outrage, but you are missing that normal does not imply good, and not normal does not mean bad. Being astoundingly beautiful is not normal, but it’s commonly seen as positive.