I think there is a big difference between “tough love” and unkindness. I don’t think being unkind is ever the best way to encourage someone to improve. Instead be “blunt” in communication/upfront with constructive criticism - which I see as a kindness.
You don’t know what someone is going through, and everybody is the way they are because of a background that they didn’t choose.
That said, sometimes being unkind is the most effective way of pushing people toward a better path.
I think there is a big difference between “tough love” and unkindness. I don’t think being unkind is ever the best way to encourage someone to improve. Instead be “blunt” in communication/upfront with constructive criticism - which I see as a kindness.
“Fool of a Tûk! Throw yourself next time and free us from your stupidity!”
Blunt ✅
Constructive (offered an alternative) ✅
Well, it has been my experience that kindness is in the eye of the beholder.