I’ve been in a stable relationship for a while now so naturally the idea of being married to that person comes up. But I just can’t think of any argument in favour of it.

  1. The government is discussing equalising tax groups, so unmarried individuals are no longer disadvantaged compared to married couples.

  2. I engage in a contract with high risk. If I don’t get my legalese right, I risk forfeiting a sizeable portion of my belongings when the contract comes to an end. High risk should entail high reward but in fact I don’t see any reward.

  3. Getting married changes nothing about the relationship. Until recently, the government didn’t even recognise same sex marriages. So if a straight couple gets married, should that make their relationship more valid because the government decides to put a stamp of approval on theirs and not on a gay couple? I hope not.

I’ve tried putting myself in other roles to imagine why I would want to get married. This is what I came up with:

  1. I like labelling things and I like the sound of the label “married”
  2. I want a big party called “marriage ceremony” that other people also understand as “marriage ceremony” (as opposed to just any party)
  3. I like the way married couples are portrayed in films and books (Ignoring the fact that in real life, a lot of marriages are unhappy, dysfunctional and draining until they end up in divorce).
  • Toes♀@ani.social
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    21 days ago

    There’s a few chief reasons in my eyes.

    1. It’s so romantic to promise yourselves to each other. (Love is blind and all that jazz haha)

    2. Lawfully you guarantee who makes medical and financial choices on your behalf in the event of a disaster. (Sure there’re other ways to go about this but they are more expensive when contested)

    3. This is the simplest way to ensure your family gets your home and stuff if you pass on.

    4. It’s typically necessary for insurance purposes.

    5. Culturally it’s expected of you if you’re from a religious or traditional background.