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Cake day: September 2nd, 2023

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  • Yes. And it sucked. And it still sucks.

    Within the last few year, I’ve finally realized I’ve been asexual my whole life. I’ve had sex before, but I struggled to care about it or enjoy it. It was always inconvenient, messy, went on too long, etc. I had enjoyed spending time with my partners, but I hated sex, and that’s been a huge part of all my relationships.

    And, yes, I’ve had “good sex” before. Just like someone who hates pie can have the best pie ever, it’s still pie!

    I’ve sworn off relationships until I can figure it out, but god knows that every romantic relationship will require sex to let my partner know that I care about them and their needs. I’m sick of compromising. Why the fuck should I need to compromise on something that I don’t want or like? Plus, because I’m not into it, I’m sure my partner would want someone who puts in enthusiastic effort to the endeavor.

    Don’t tell me that I’ll find someone. It’s not comforting, and I’m still grappling with the reality of it. I’d like a partner, but it’s just not feasible for someone like me.

    I’m still mad that I’m like this.


  • Absolutely! No one should ever go out looking for a scaleless beardie. Ever. I’m a former foster/rescue, and I was offered up one from a breeder who produced one by accident (they retired that pair immediately after). I accepted because I wanted to learn how to care for one in case I’d need the knowledge for future cases.

    The amount of time & money I’ve spent on this idiot to keep him healthy & comfortable is ridiculous.

    Love him to bits! But no one should ever get a scaleless beardie.










  • My very best friend in the whole world mentioned a trans person, shook his head, and remarks that “we need a purge”.

    I really, truly thought that different ideologies could get along until then. With that comment, I realized that, no, I cannot get along with an ideology that believes that marginalized groups “should not exist”. Because, deep down, a belief for their “non-existence” is a belief for their death. And I now refuse to have friends who believe things like that.

    Civility is compliance. I kicked him out of my house, my final words to him, as he angrily screamed at me, being “bye, bitch, bye!” It hurt me so badly to lose my closest friend that day, but my life really did improve after that. Now he might actually have to pay for the therapy he so desperately needs. God knows, he won’t, because he believes that “mental health excuses are just pussy shit”, but considering he’s howling that no one has wanted to fuck him for the last x amount of years shows that his anger and bitterness are still holding him back. He’s insufferable.

    Fuck any belief that punches down. Y’all deserve to exist peacefully and not be fucking bothered by dickheads about how you live your life.