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  • This is a fantastic reason to talk to a therapist.

    You won’t ever really trust your friends or family who say you did nothing wrong. Other folks will try to explain it away but it doesn’t help either. Most people dealt with this and it sucks and when it hits you when you are vulnerable it can hurt for a long time.

    Focus on who you are and who you want to be and building your confidence. Focus on boundary setting and clear communication with people in general. These are skills it sounds like you struggle with based off the problems you are stressing about.


  • It can be scary for anyone regardless of gender. I’ve twice had really bad reactions, once life threatening, after a break up and I’m a big man.

    That doesn’t mean anyone is wrong for ghosting or getting ghosted. I just want to highlight that trying to focus on gender as if it matters is the same as focusing on race or size or religion. You shouldn’t say that a black person should expect to get ghosted because some people have had bad experiences with black people.

    Look maybe this person is terrible and deserved to be ghosted. Maybe the other person was awful and ghosted them to hurt them. Maybe it was just an unfortunate reaction due to personal stress. But no one deserves to be told their gender makes them just need to just suck it up and expect it. Having to deal with the stress and self doubt that comes from having someone who you thought was a part of your life decide to cut you out instantly, it sucks.


  • The reminder is due to the fact that she never should have been the candidate in 2024 in the first place. She was not even in the top 5 in 2020. She didn’t do anything during her time as VP that made up for that gap. She was pushed in because the folks above her were two leftists, a gay man, and a rich DINO.

    I don’t know that she would win California and if California goes to a Republican governor that takes away one of the handful of hail mary possible counter balances to Trump right now in a possible secession action. Right now if Trump attacked Mexico and Canada it isnt unreasonable to think some states would actively refuse to support the action but if California or New York were not both states to support it then it would be meaningless.









  • Debian tends to be a liiiiitle bit behind Fedora and because gaming on Linux is accelerating in popularity, being ahead can provide big gains in performance.

    Can you manually handle all of that? Sure. I mean I have Mint on my side desktop with a custom Kernel but I recognize that I am dropping a V8 into a Mini Van.



  • In an American vacuum I could see where you are coming from. In comparison with literally the entire rest of the world, it is clearly a flawed standpoint.

    The American Democratic party is the oldest standing political party in the entire world. It last changed it’s political stances in the 1960’s and not because they wanted to, but because they needed to respond to the Republicans flipping the entire south in their favor.

    Other countries have real leftist parties that actually get government members elected.



  • I vote for them, they move right. I don’t vote for them, and vote third party, they move right. I join their party and vote in their primary’s for progressive candidates, they move right.

    It’s almost like a bunch of really old, well off, lifetime establishment government folks just actually want to be conservative authoritarians. At BEST they are stuck in a mindset of 1969’s ideas of what progressive politics are because that is when they became politicians.