Trigger warning: this could be upsetting

Shortly after graduating school, I hung out with someone I met once before and was raped and have some trauma in my background. It was aquaintance rape I guess? I barely knew him. There’s other bad stuff that’s happened that’s also horrifying, some of it worse than that.

I am biologically male and effeminate, but don’t want to have a female body. I don’t really feel like anything and sort of don’t care what people call me. I am slightly asexual just from trauma and don’t really feel like I exist in a way. It wouldn’t surprise me if I’m not around in another decade.

I support trans people, but feel like putting he/him next to my name sort of implies a more clear identity than I have or implies I care about how people label me. I don’t. I sort of barely exist and don’t like to imply otherwise. People can call me anything, I don’t care. I don’t see myself as female or a they or it. I don’t see myself as anything.

I almost want to go like (he/him/*) but I am afraid this would be disrespectful.

I truthfully would like to be (he/him/🫥/💀) which would obviously be seen as demeaning. I feel like anything other than normal parantheticals opens the door to a distracting conversation that I don’t want professionally and often don’t want personally. And I feel like nothing after my name is dog-whistle for trans-people-are-invalid.

(I don’t care about pronouns but support trans people) also seems disrespectful and sort of like “i want attention” and I really don’t.

I wish I could support trans people without having to label myself or my body or even bring up these topics. Is there a way to do that? There probably isn’t.

  • Mothra@mander.xyz
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    5 months ago

    There are many reasons why people may not disclose their pronouns and I wouldn’t presume that means taking a stance against trans or anyone.

    If today I saw emojis listed as someone’s pronouns, my first thought would be that they’re trolling or taking it as a joke though.

    Just be yourself, show your support in any way that makes you feel comfortable and if anyone asks why you don’t disclose yours you can just say pretty much what you’ve just said. I think it’s understandable enough.