I am so confused by this question because because why wouldn’t two people who are equal contribute as equals? Are people in relationships where one person contributes everything and the other person just coasts? And if so, why would you do that to yourself?

Let’s say both the guy and girl make the same amount of money and are both good at and enjoy cooking and cleaning.

Would it be wrong for a guy to want the girl to give equal contribution financially to the relationship if he’s also willing and capable of contributing equally to domestic duties?

If both people worked exactly the same amount of time, with the same commute etc. and also did exactly the same amount of the same chores, that would be the definition of fair. But that is highly unlikely, and very often what one person perceives as doing half of the chores actually isn’t but they do not notice because their partner is picking up the slack. Real life is about finding the balance that works for both people involved. A true half half is not possible.

In this same scenario, would it be wrong for him to expect her to cook and clean if he’s expected to handle the financial aspects of the relationship?

If he works eg 8-9 hours it would be fair if she also works 8-9 hours in the household. But again, in real life household work, especially if you have younger kids, doesn’t end at 5 o’clock. Coming home at 5oclock after 8 hours of work but expecting your partner to work about 10+ hours or even more if you have kids until the late hours of the evening is not fair in the slightest.

Dude, it’s up to you two. There is no right and wrong. Negotiate and either compromise, redefine your relationship, or move on.

If this actually needs discussion between you and can not be taken as a given, then the relationship is not on a level that I would recommend joining households.

That third paragraph says it all lol

Just help around the house dude.

I think it’s wrong to assume that man=financial duties and woman=domestic duties. That worked in the 50s because of rampant sexism, but that train of thought is long-since outdated. I get that power dynamic is ingrained into straight culture, but especially in the scenario you’re talking about only serves to make the woman inferior to the man by making her clean for him even when they are both working. I always thought it was weird that men wouldn’t learn to cook, if you really loved the ither person wouldn’t you take the time to learn to cook at least a couple dishes to help out?

The two of you need to have a conversation about how your relationship will work. Talk about how the finances will be handled and how the chores will be handled. What works for tv couples may not work for y’all.

different strokes for different folks

We do

[ (individual pay) / (total pay) ] * [ bills ]

i.e. one of us earns 70% of the income, pays 70% of the bills (not counting personal subscriptions, student loan payments etc).

I do slightly more housework, I think, it depends week to week. But I don’t mind, as some of those extra items are caring for our cat which I have a boundless resourcefulness for.

You’re both equal human beings and the only solution is to talk stuff out as equal human beings. Find what works for you both. Don’t get distracted by bean counting.

Its up to you and your partner to find a arrangement that works for both of you and makes you both happy. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

Expenses equal by amount of contributions

Expenses equal by % of income contributions

Expenses equal by time required to make the money

or any other division of labor and income

Household expenses should be split such that you both have the same amount of money left after the bills are paid.

Housework should be split such that you both have the same amount of leisure time.

Higher earners should not be regarding their lower paid partners as housekeepers, no. Pull your weight at home or GTFO.

Morally, probably yes.

Socially, the girl has more bargaining power to do some house chores and have the guy pay for room and board.

Relationships are ongoing negotiations.