Hello Internet,

I have trouble with any underwear I ever owned. I am wearing XXL or size 8 underwear but they tend to make me uncomfortable in different matters.

Waering loose Boxershorts is okay to my wiener but my balls are to free. Also they tend to crawl upwards during the day.

Tighter Shorts have a good appearance and are my main underwear. But I struggle with them as well: My thing turtles uncomfortably making me insane so I can pull it into position. Also, they tend to screw at the bottom after half an year.

Asking this within my circles only earns sarcastic comments or the experience isn’t shared. So I ask you: How do I determine the correct underwear for me and am I missing something? If you relate and have solved this issue, please recommend me some underwear.

// Edit:

Thank you for all the recommendations and input. I wasn’t aware of the pouch feature. Researched all suggested brands and:

Ordered from overseas:

  • SAXX
  • BN3TH

Currently not deliverable:

  • Step One

Lululemon does have a store in the city, so I will go there next week to try those on.

  • Crozekiel@lemmy.zip
    5·
    2 days ago

    Am I the only person that actually wants an openable fly in their boxer-briefs? All these companies these days willing to make 2 distinct pockets for balls and shaft but won’t let me poke out for fresh air or a bathroom trip without having to deal with the waistband drive me nuts. My cock didn’t commit any crimes, I don’t want to force it into solitary confinement…

    The worst part is I found my perfect underwear several years back and the company has basically disappeared. They had a sort of soft and loose-ish horizontal fly that basically revolutionized my relationship with my crotch and I can’t find more :(

      • Crozekiel@lemmy.zipEnglish
        1·
        2 days ago

        In the comfort and privacy of my own home, sometimes it is nice to feel a breeze twixt my nethers.

      • weeeeum@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        2 days ago

        Something women can’t comprehend, our balls are actually lungs and our willy gots to breathe else suffer asphyxiation.

    • happysplinter@lemmy.world
      3·
      2 days ago

      I relate to this so much. I hate when I get a pair with A grundle pouch but no gate to let it out. I’m not an over the top type of guy.

  • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
    10·
    3 days ago

    My friend, it’s like searching for true love. You’re going to have to go out there and spend the money and try on different styles until you find the right one.

      • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
        3·
        3 days ago

        No recommendation is any good. Again, as with true love, what makes the heart of one man soar like an eagle will only throw another into the nadir of despair. Many a man rejoices to have their intimate areas caressed by Calvin Klein, but the same brand has strangled the gonads of the unfortunate few.

        • 7dev7random7@suppo.fiOP
          2·
          2 days ago

          I follow your advice and will go into the city to shop for my underwear needs. You are absolutely right: My trunk differs from others. My requirements also change depending on my daily tasks. So I will address this explicitly!

          • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
            2·
            2 days ago

            If it wasn’t underwear I’d advise you to ask a fellow of similar proportions what they like. It’s one thing to discuss jeans with a stranger irl and quite another to ask about intimate attire.

            Have a good day, internet stranger

        • helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world
          3·
          3 days ago

          Yes but at least they are getting unique ideas and not just whatever ad bullshit the general internet feeds them.

          I also love the A+ prose.

  • catsarebadpeople@sh.itjust.works
    17·
    3 days ago

    SAXX

    They are pricey but totally worth it. They last a long time, are very comfortable and have a pouch for your stuff. You can usually find deals on their website for things like discontinued holiday prints. I don’t really care what mine look like so I wear a lot of Christmas themed boxer briefs. I’d recommend the Vibe.

  • edric@lemm.eeEnglish
    141·
    3 days ago

    Boxer briefs are the best of both worlds. Not too tight like a regular brief underwear, not too loose like boxer shorts, and still has adequate ball support.

    • 7dev7random7@suppo.fiOP
      2·
      2 days ago

      After researching, I wear trunk-size retroshorts. You tip enabled me to query the internet. Thanks!

  • s_s@lemm.eeEnglish
    2·
    2 days ago

    Pair of Thieves long legged boxer briefs their “superfit” material. Available at Target.

  • DerisionConsulting@lemmy.caEnglish
    81·
    3 days ago

    Sizes are very different depending on where you live, so I’m not sure what size you actually are. I have underwear from Asia that’s XXL, and underwear from North America that’s medium.

    Have you tried pocketed underwear?
    It’ll stop your balls from flopping around without squishing your dick because the fabric is too tight. If you follow the “Keep it slick (hairless) if you want it licked” way of thinking for your balls, it’ll also prevent “batwing” by keeping them from touching your thighs.

    All of the underwear I wear now are pocketed, some of them are codpiece-styled, which can be fun

    • 7dev7random7@suppo.fiOP
      1·
      2 days ago

      These are indeed some of my problems. I measured myself and checked each brand size recommendations. Delivery is slow, shops within the eu are rare.

      But you sold me on these pockets

    • DarkThoughts@fedia.io
      31·
      3 days ago

      Cut is also a big factor. After my breakup I got like a big pack of some cheap Amazon boxers and they were terrible (likely designed around small Chinese men and then badly upscaled). Too small (despite being XXL), and the cut was so weird… When walking around the legs would constantly shuffle up and my junk was consequently sticking out to one of the sides, so I had to frequently do the stupid shuffling in my pockets to pull the legs back down. Got some boxers from Schiesser after that, a 2 pack which was of course much more expensive but something I’d just buy with every other order so that I could manage the money and they’re a world of difference. The cut is better, they’re larger and the legs are a little longer. No more moving up while walking at all and the fabric is also a lot softer / more comfy.

  • olicvb@lemmy.caEnglish
    5·
    3 days ago

    I think I used to be in the same situation, used to always go for boxer-shorts since i liked having the swinging freedom, but my balls would get uncomfortable.

    In comes Dual-Pouch underwear, best of both worlds for me. They look like normal underwear except they have a hole to put the penis in so it drops to the second pouch.

    You get a good ball support and you don’t have to squish your dick for it or the other case where everything is free, but so are the balls. This fixes that for me

    I got the brand ‘Separatec’ style: everyday

  • spacecadet@lemm.ee
    41·
    3 days ago

    MeUndies thongs for men are absolutely fantastic and my go to daily underwear. They take about a day to get used to but after you do you won’t want to wear anything else.

  • gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    31·
    3 days ago

    They’re not cheap, but I have been rocking lululemon boxer briefs since roughly when the pandemic started. They’re cut so that you’ll have a nice pocket for the old wedding tackle, and the fit is quite flattering (or so I have been told).

    You can occasionally snipe discounts on their website, or find deals at outlet locations.

  • tabris@lemmy.world
    281·
    2 days ago

    This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

    Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn’t believe. Yes there’ll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there’s plenty that are more “reserved”.

    BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

    And because the queer community largely (not always, but we’re working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

    Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

    • Ark-5@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      1·
      19 hours ago

      I was about to say something similar. Like I started wearing some “women’s” underwear and running shorts even before I realized I wasn’t a guy. Obviously for people that aren’t trying to hide things I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it, but some of the underwear I have now is just better than tons men’s underwear I wore pre-transition. Just materials, and seam placement, and color options, all of it. You can still find boxers and everything. It’s kind of just better.

    • Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works
      8·
      2 days ago

      It never for one second occurred to me that a gay me could have a wider choice of underwear than a straight me currently does. Firing up the private browser tab as we speak - thanks for the info.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    12·
    3 days ago

    Nothing fancy here, but Hanes makes boxer briefs with a little pouch to give your boys a little extra support.

    I’m sure other brands offer a similar style, and may be even better, but I can at least vouch for the Hanes.

    • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world
      5·
      3 days ago

      If your balls hang that low, it’s time to retire, sit on the sidewalk in a rocking chair, sip sweet tea, and wait for the nuclear annihilation

  • 24_at_the_withers@lemmy.world
    8·
    3 days ago

    I did a thing a couple years ago where I dropped about $500 buying every style of boxer brief that looked appealing or had a strong fanbase. I tried saxx, Duluth, all citizens, meundies, bn3th, Mac Weldon, Lululemon, Tommy John, separatec, and probably a few others.

    All Citizens are my winner overall - the BN3TH are also really nice - I actually like their cuts and design better, but the materials don’t hold up nearly as well as the All Citizens. All Citizens are also much better value, IMO.

    For the All Citizens, I’m specifically talking about their Paradise Pocket boxer briefs. My legs are proportionally beefy in comparison to my waist, so it’s also nice that All Citizens offer an “Athletic Fit” option that keeps the legs from being overly tight. Just snug enough not to ride up without pinching or leaving a visible line visible through pants.