You know, I would love to agree with you, but that’s just not the case for many husbands in hetero relationships. I watched my wife’s libido fall through the floor after the birth of our child. After years of therapy and communication and commitment to the relationship, we got it back from once every two months to almost once every week, and that’s the max she said she’s willing to commit to at the moment. I’d be more content with 2-3 times that.
Some tropes exist because there’s a bit of them grounded in reality.
I think you’re not comprehending the commenters point.
It’s not saying that men and women have exactly the same desires and necessities. It’s saying that framing sex as something that men do to women is problematic.
I watched my wife’s libido fall through the floor after the birth of our child.
Some things I’ve heard along these lines can be exhaustion from the responsibility of caring for a child. I’m not accusing you of anything, but you might meditate for a minute on what household and childcare tasks you do versus her, and consider how that might have an impact.
That’s not a woman thing. That’s a human thing. People’s libido is extremely variable throughout their lives, and compared to other people’s. I know many hetero relationships where (luckily for me) the masculine member is not interested in sex but their partner is. Your wife doesn’t have a low libido because she is a woman!! That’s insane.
I think the main difference is that men feel entitled to sex, and women just deal.
You know, I would love to agree with you, but that’s just not the case for many husbands in hetero relationships. I watched my wife’s libido fall through the floor after the birth of our child. After years of therapy and communication and commitment to the relationship, we got it back from once every two months to almost once every week, and that’s the max she said she’s willing to commit to at the moment. I’d be more content with 2-3 times that.
Some tropes exist because there’s a bit of them grounded in reality.
I think you’re not comprehending the commenters point.
It’s not saying that men and women have exactly the same desires and necessities. It’s saying that framing sex as something that men do to women is problematic.
Fair enough, I support that sentiment.
Some things I’ve heard along these lines can be exhaustion from the responsibility of caring for a child. I’m not accusing you of anything, but you might meditate for a minute on what household and childcare tasks you do versus her, and consider how that might have an impact.
That’s not a woman thing. That’s a human thing. People’s libido is extremely variable throughout their lives, and compared to other people’s. I know many hetero relationships where (luckily for me) the masculine member is not interested in sex but their partner is. Your wife doesn’t have a low libido because she is a woman!! That’s insane.
I think the main difference is that men feel entitled to sex, and women just deal.