There’s nowhere that I wouldn’t like to see for myself at least once. So I’ll go with somewhere that I’ve been already and wouldn’t miss if I never went again.

Paris. It’s literally just a big dirty city with graffiti and people peeing in alleyways like any other city, plus a few famous landmarks that you only need to see once, in areas where everything costs twice as much. Big whoop.

On a side note: I didn’t encounter the stereotype of rude French people anywhere in France. If you’re friendly, don’t treat waiters and stuff like servants and don’t expect people to fall over their feet for you, I found them to be just like any other human beings anywhere else. Some people are friendly, some people are just doing their jobs and getting through their days.

The closest I came to a ‘rude’ French person was on my way out of the country, going through all the hoops in the airport. This one women at the counter’s face almost seemed to light up when she saw and was so friendly and warm. Until I spoke English and then her face just dropped and she barely looked at me or said a word the rest of the time.

Strange. I didn’t see a single mention of drag queens or trans people in there.

Boredwalk are one of the few good follows on Facebook. I love them. Are they on Bluesky? Might be worth looking at my account there more often for.

Reason for deleting my comment: not interested in ‘discussing’ anything with people who go “men and women the same” when there’s literally stats and figures that prove otherwise and the growing ideological divide between men and women is a real concern. If I had to bring up those facts, one of these snowflakes would just report my comments for ‘hate’ or something. Because that’s how these people prefer to do it. Sticking their heads in the ground and going “not all men” out of their backsides, rather than ever acknowledging that there are any problems and working to solve them.

A lot of these idiots were stocking up on tinned food and prepping for the apocalypse before '94. They really are the typical conservatives where they’re simultaneously bullies that treat people like shit and ruin lives without a conscience, and the biggest victims of persecution in the world.

And as far as farm murders go. I’m really not condoning violence or minimising some of the awful, brutal things that have happened in that regard, women and children included. But I went to a boarding school in a shit hole conservative farming town in the early 2000s and there were a couple of farm murders in the region while I was there. And every time, there were whispers about how those farmers treated their workers like absolute trash, practically like sub humans.

This was an area where people were already just as racist as they were religious. And even they thought that these farmers were extreme and maybe kinda asking for it.

So yeah, one thing I can say is that it’s a lot more complicated than some evil plot against the white race.

Puzzle Box

Just to be sure to avoid any puzzle box that looks like this:

Yeah that’s what I thought the other day as well. They should all get together and take Nintendo to court.

Not sure how much of a secret or how unique this is to this industry but in sign writing, they’ll charge customers bloated prices that includes the cost of all materials, then use offcut and leftover materials from previous jobs anyway.

Yeah I think nowhere will be 100% free of bigots that think the world revolves around them. But the way I see it, it’s just easier to disappear into the crowd in cities. You’re going to be seeing and walking past a hundred different faces in a day.

Whereas in a small town or village, you’re going to be seeing the same people over and over. And those same people you’ll be seeing over and over usually consist of pearl clutching retirees and people that barely ever left their home town in their lives and who live in a small world (but of course still think they know everything about everything). And to your point, those kinds of people tend to think that their specific culture is the default and ‘normal’ and that everyone else in the world is wrong and a heretic.

As someone that is dying to be more GNC on a daily basis, I know that I’m not comfortable in this small town where even the hobos down the road know me personally by now.

Exactly what I was thinking of. I’d still like to know what the real, sinister purpose of aglets are.

And that’s just the difference between the right and the left anyway. With the exception of extremes like nazism, a leftist government would allow churches and let these fkn clowns do whatever they want to do in their free time and live their lives the way they want. Whereas a right wing government will force their religion onto people whether they want it or not and strip generalized groups of people of their rights because apparently their imaginary friend wants them to do that.

If only the big bad left would be a little less tolerant of delusions and stupidity, maybe the world would be a better place. Because the moment the delusional stupid people get the chance, they prove to all of us why they never deserved tolerance in the first place. Seems all too clear to me now that religious conservatives simply cannot be trusted to play nicely with everyone else and should never be allowed near positions of power ever again, just like nazis.

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I’ve definitely picked up that people in these spaces are mainly accepting and understanding. And sympathetic to people who feel their only option is self diagnosis. So the final barrier is me wondering if I really belong as usual lol. But I’m learning to get over myself and allow myself to find my people. Thank you for always being so kind.

Wow no way! Are you telling me that the guy who hosted Fear Factor isn’t a scientific expert? Next you’ll be telling me that he isn’t an expert on politics or sociology either. And I’m not sure that I believe it. I mean, just look at how swole and manly he is. How could you not trust this guy with everything from voting advice to issues that should be left to scientists?

I haven’t actually looked into if there are any charities dealing with diagnosis. That might be a possibility. I’ve never been in any job that would bother though. South Africa has this thing about being ‘tough’ and too cool for school all the time. If I had to bring it up to a boss, I’d probably be laughed at and called “gay” or something. Or be told something like “we’re all a little autistic, deal with it”. I’m 100% making assumptions because I’ve never tried it but I think I’ve got this place pretty well figured out by now.

I think my only option is private, which means that it’s just another thing that needs saving up for. On a growing list of things I need money for.

Glad to hear that you’re finally getting answers. I really get the impression that you’re on a mission to live your best life right now and I love that. I’m not completely giving up myself. I’ll still lurk in neurodivergent spaces and pick up tips and learn things. Just without any medication I guess (unless you count self medicating with pot).

Not diagnosed but at this point I’m about 99% sure I’m high masking either ADHD or autism or both. I don’t like self diagnosing personally (ever since coming across a warning against it when I did psych 101 and 102) but starting to feel like I need to for my own sake, just so that I can find the resources I need to live successfully.

Tried going through the public healthcare system for a diagnosis and was left with the impression that unless I have visible tics and ‘act’ like something is wrong, I’m not going to be getting any help there.

I’m gonna jump in here with my own two cents as well!

I am most certainly ecologically conscious so that is part of it. Although it’s probably also an excuse and something to make myself feel better about it.

The main reason is that I feel like I would be a danger to others lol. I used to ride motorbikes (plural because I crashed all 3 of them), absolutely sucked at it and wrecked my knees in the process. And I just feel like it’s one of these areas in life where everyone else seems to just automatically know how to do it correctly but no one is sharing the secret. I mean, I was bad, I even wiped out once or twice just slowing down for an intersection and hitting the brakes too quickly or something (to this day I’m still not 100% sure what I did wrong).

Even with bicycles. It didn’t take long to learn to balance and pedal and whatever but beyond that I was awful and crashed for stupid, preventable reasons. Also tried skateboarding at one point and seemed to have a knack for hitting every small stone in the road that would lock my wheel up and send me flying.

I worry that I’m behind the wheel of a car, I’m gonna daydream or something, or do something stupid and wrong that I don’t even realise because apparently it’s obvious to everyone else except me. And then injure someone other than myself this time. At least if I fuck up on a motorbike, it’s going to likely just be me facing the consequences and I won’t take out a family with me.

I’ve also started priding myself with walking though. I’m part of a select few that could walk from here to the next town over if I felt like it, and I like being part of a select few. It also keeps me slightly in shape. The “fast metabolism” that I coasted on for years has definitely slowed down and I’m definitely getting a little bit of a belly now. And if I drove everywhere instead of walking, I’d probably be in much worse shape right now.

Trans men are foolish women who were tricked

A couple of months ago I was trying something with a second account on Facebook. Gave myself a gender neutral name, used a profile picture where it’s hard to tell, and set the non-binary flag as my banner.

Ended up in an argument with a TERF at one point. She was so convinced that I was a biological woman falling prey to “trans ideology” that she even showed up on my profile the next day, commenting on something and trying to convince me to change the path that I’m on. And just because it’s relevant to this story, I feel like I should mention that I was shipped with male factory parts.

So yeah, I experienced that first hand with a TERF who can “always tell”, who was convinced that I was one of these foolish women being tricked.

It was pretty affirming at first but as time went on it felt less like a win and made me feel awful and deceptive. Because I didn’t once mention anything about my sex but didn’t correct her either and just let her keep making assumptions. Deleted that account not long after that.

Edit: fun fact, not long after that on my main Facebook account that uses my very gendered real name, in another argument with a bigot, I was accused of being a woman pretending to be a man online.

Take time to be a better person. Doing that fights them just as well as all the other stuff.

That is a great way of reframing it. And honestly it is a big help right now with the way I’ve been thinking lately. So thank you for taking the time to post this, seriously. I’ve got some thoughts that need rearranging now.

Clone Wars. Attack of the Killer Broccoli.

Does it make me a bad person that I can’t look at a kid like this without picturing them spending their time listening to washed up reality stars, laughing at rape ‘jokes’ and licking the boots of billionaires?