https://slate.com/technology/2014/05/not-all-men-how-discussing-womens-issues-gets-derailed.html

The race mention is signalling the privilege displayed in the behaviour. We know that all kinds of people can be a bigot, but this ain’t it fam. This stuff hurts both you and me. Men do need help, but that is not this conversation.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0896627321004177

Hurt people hurt people.