A stable career path, a loving relationship, and permanent housing.
More concise: Stability.
It’s all I ever wanted and seemingly the only thing I can never have even since childhood. I move every 2 years on average and since adulthood that’s been from basement apartment to basement apartment and now to a garage with no end in sight… I finally got to the point where I could consider buying a house and then COVID, WFH, and the invesestment parasites all blew up at once and took that away from me… I gave up on the relationship bit years ago.
the only thing that could “make” me happy is a change in mindset, perhaps forced by brain damage.
as far as how I will make my own happiness, it comes down to making choices informed by my own values, painstakingly discovered through mistakes, introspection, and connections with others
Or you could rub a cats bellllly?
“OK, you’ve finished your first play through. Now go back a handful of decades and don’t do the same fuck-ups.”
Not having adhd so I could make a better use of time, for family, relaxation, chores, career advancement. So I didn’t have to lean on my wife’s emotional intelligence and knack for planning so much, and so I would be better at maintaining relationships with those who aren’t in my immediate vicinity
good news! a lot of those skills can be trained, even for someone with adhd
Just enough money to pay off my car, my credit card, and give me 1 year (if that, id probably spend half the time recovering from traveling) to travel and see where I want to go in life.
Edit: funny, now that I’m thinking about it there’s that venn diagram joke: Money, time, and Energy. Each stage of your life you get two.
I have no energy, not a lot of money, and plenty of time (except ADHD time blindness so it doesn’t do me any fucking good.)
Ultimate dream? To have my mortgage paid off so I can have a bit more breathing room every month. I’ll get there eventually, I’m just impatient 🙂
Jelly.
I’m already happy, so happier than this?maybe some more money but just for practical purposes.
Never needing to work again and actually having energy to do things would probably do the trick.
We can be friends
It helps, but then you have to supplant your own meaning life, or one can very quickly spiral into doing nothing and becoming depressed. Capitalism sucks, but work doesn’t; it gives us direction and purpose.
My friend, I assume, and I find plenty of meaning in accomplishing simple tasks and finding interesting ways to express ourselves. No labor needed. Only little rabbit holes to constantly fall into.
Edit: btw I don’t approve of all the downvotes you got. A lot of meaning can be found in, exhausting, intense, hard work. Most of that is stripped away by being forced to do it, though.
Just one day without tinnitus would make me happy.
Take care of your ears.
Just live in a loud environment! Oh god I wish I could know silence again. Nothing like going out into nature and you hear a ringing the whole time
Mine eventually (after years) faded into the background and now it only really bothers me if I’m in a quiet place.
Can’t emphasize this enough.
Probably a loving partner, and enough therapy to be able to have a healthy relationship. But that’s a lot of work, so I mostly try to be happy in my solitude.
It’s a lot of work for sure. Good luck to you 🙂 🤍
Thanks. Trying to fix myself up more first
Sounds like a solid plan!
I’m a person who enjoys their solitude. I know my partners not the same but I also know there are other people who very much like to stay to themselves. Maybe you can find someone who you can both be in solitude together with.
That would be great, but I’m pretty bad at meeting new people so 🤷
Same. Working on boundaries and seeing some improvement. Definitely not where I want to be, but much better than where I used to be.
I’m definitely worse lol
His name is
H1Jack
Cadillac
on the track.
He’s getting back
in the black
on the attack
blocking flak
making you yak
yo slimy gak
like ipecac
cause you whack.
But in his pack
we got no lack
with H1 Jack.
A friend that both plays the same video games I like so we can play together and also fucks me.
Are we doing this? Be gentle.
Gentle? But babe, I just lost to Promised Consort Radahn 157 times in a row; I need to vent that anger.
We’re going to need some lube
Condoms has lube right?
bummer I was gonna offer the first part but i fear it’s contingent on the second part
If I learned how to prioritize sleep without feeling guilty
I do it like this. The world’s a better place for everyone if I’m properly rested. Especially me.
Sleep’s one of the best free pleasures around. It’s free, it heals your body and mind, and just feels good.
I’ve fought a lot with insomnia in recent years and truly appreciate when I’m able to get a good night’s sleep. I’d rather have a bit shorter days, but feel much better due to being well rested whenever possible. How does sleeping make you feel guilty?
A universal move towards a less judgemental and more empathetic society.
this might sound cliché, but what if the start of non-judgment is within yourself? you’ve already judged society to be too judgmental!
I dont mean to play tricks with you. this is the central struggle of having a mind. we constantly evaluate everything!
Indeed, it’s something I think about quite a bit. The conclusion I’ve come to involves consent: If all people involved in something fully understand and consent to what is happening, then they should not be “judged” for it.
And yes, I know there are holes and loopholes in that conclusion, but I think it’s nearly impossible to have a logically sound and consistent moral framework.
nearly impossible to have a logically sound and consistent moral framework.
Moral belief, I agree with. Framework sounds much more maleable. I think it’s doable but you need tolerances. Since a framework would shape your belief and everyone have to fill in the blanks for themselves. Two different people could have wildly different conclusions working with the same moral outline. We have to allow for failings but also recognize the failings and adapt. If there is some give and allowances for people to be wrong it makes it less strenuous and easier to uphold your own personal morality.
Like or not Christianity deals with this. It’s a confusing system, purposefully so church leaders can police it, but jesus offers forgiveness. They are so confident in it that Jesus can offer forgiveness for things that no normal person would be able to. I’m not saying the Christian implementation is the right one but I think it allowed the religion to flourish.
All these new science and technology advancements and our politicians are still frothing corrupt conartists lying to the public to increase their own power and wealth at the cost of humanity.
I just want to know that everything is genuinely going to be okay.
In the vastness of an infinite universe you are a speck on a dot that lasts only a moment. It’ll be ok.
