I dont think my dad liked me or my 8 siblings very much. It was just the thing to do for Jesus. So honestly, I think just not wanting kids is a great excuse, cause now I dont like my dad.
Same! I turned down the idea of raising a child in a perceived world where bigotry was a thing of the past, people had medical autonomy, and legal street-kidnappings were relegated to the Nazis in textbooks.
In hindsight the world was never that way. I just didn’t see it for what it is. And now that I do…
Honestly I don’t either, but I am also not above using it as a philosophical cudgel against fascism. If I’m going to get shit for not wanting kids the least I can do is redirect the conversation to politics.
I’ve never really liked “children” in the sense of the age group, but I know a bunch of people who have really great, meaningful relationships between adult children and their parents, so I wanted adult children in my late middle ages and retirement ages.
Now, with my own children, I primarily see them as future adults who I get to watch develop into cool people.
I’m sure the evolved brain chemical soup would make me like my own selfishly, but generally yeah I just don’t like kids. I don’t like interacting with them at all. I didn’t even when I was one, and I’m certainly not a “cool uncle.”
I had to warn my sister before she had her first not to get mad at me for not conforming to some fantasy relationship that might only exist in her head. She’s like that, so it was to get ahead of any hurt feelings. I couldn’t realistically make that happen even if I wanted to.
Seriously. I can handle being with family for a while, but would absolutely lose all will to live if I had to be near children every single day. Even more if I was actually supposed to be responsible for them. There are a lot of good reasons to not get children, the best one I have is that I just don’t want to be near them.
I’m on holiday right now with my extended family. The youngest is 18. It’s been great but today is the sixth and final day and I’m ready to go home so I can chill out on my own. The thought of going home and spending more time with this group of adults I’m related to fills me with dread. I can’t imagine what it would be like if one of them was a young child, let alone one that I had to be responsible for.
I get about an hour and a half a day of free time, which I should probably be using to clean.
If we had shorter work days it would be far better, though we bid up housing prices using loose monetary policy so that’s not happening. Most people aged to procreate are funding boomers poor retirement planning.
eg, thier medicaire/caid. you would have to be very poor to use medicaid. the most chronic conditions people have on medicare, is DIABETES TYPE 2, AND comorbidities.
while i was at a uni library, i overheard these 2 barely 20 something woman(assumed they were 18-19 by the way they were talking), talking about having kids at 25-30, where you going to have kids if you dont have a career yet, and you are barely an adult right now.
when i was HS, a mother waited too long to change his sons way (future direction) she would often come in during his classes and moniter his classwork for any lowering grade, and would chatised the class “your parents would care this much if they care about his son”, i was thinking, “this bitch, you waited 4years too long to change him, he was dead set on not going to college, when he told us”. shouldve done it before he was in HS, and not waited til he was about to graduate with a low or participation passing gpa(like many people in the hs at the time).(i havnt kept track of him, only saw him once when i was IN CC)
All these people with great rational reasons… Meanwhile, my wife and I just don’t like children.
I dont think my dad liked me or my 8 siblings very much. It was just the thing to do for Jesus. So honestly, I think just not wanting kids is a great excuse, cause now I dont like my dad.
Not liking them is reason enough. That would be a miserable childhood to be raised by people that don’t want them.
This is my boat… THEN I got a lot of rational reasons I didn’t want.
Same! I turned down the idea of raising a child in a perceived world where bigotry was a thing of the past, people had medical autonomy, and legal street-kidnappings were relegated to the Nazis in textbooks. In hindsight the world was never that way. I just didn’t see it for what it is. And now that I do…
Honestly I don’t either, but I am also not above using it as a philosophical cudgel against fascism. If I’m going to get shit for not wanting kids the least I can do is redirect the conversation to politics.
I’ve never really liked “children” in the sense of the age group, but I know a bunch of people who have really great, meaningful relationships between adult children and their parents, so I wanted adult children in my late middle ages and retirement ages.
Now, with my own children, I primarily see them as future adults who I get to watch develop into cool people.
Same. I also expected to like all children more after having mine, but I don’t. Even though I adore my kid, I still dislike children.
I’m sure the evolved brain chemical soup would make me like my own selfishly, but generally yeah I just don’t like kids. I don’t like interacting with them at all. I didn’t even when I was one, and I’m certainly not a “cool uncle.”
I had to warn my sister before she had her first not to get mad at me for not conforming to some fantasy relationship that might only exist in her head. She’s like that, so it was to get ahead of any hurt feelings. I couldn’t realistically make that happen even if I wanted to.
Seriously. I can handle being with family for a while, but would absolutely lose all will to live if I had to be near children every single day. Even more if I was actually supposed to be responsible for them. There are a lot of good reasons to not get children, the best one I have is that I just don’t want to be near them.
I’m on holiday right now with my extended family. The youngest is 18. It’s been great but today is the sixth and final day and I’m ready to go home so I can chill out on my own. The thought of going home and spending more time with this group of adults I’m related to fills me with dread. I can’t imagine what it would be like if one of them was a young child, let alone one that I had to be responsible for.
I love my kid, but the time suck is real.
I get about an hour and a half a day of free time, which I should probably be using to clean.
If we had shorter work days it would be far better, though we bid up housing prices using loose monetary policy so that’s not happening. Most people aged to procreate are funding boomers poor retirement planning.
eg, thier medicaire/caid. you would have to be very poor to use medicaid. the most chronic conditions people have on medicare, is DIABETES TYPE 2, AND comorbidities.
while i was at a uni library, i overheard these 2 barely 20 something woman(assumed they were 18-19 by the way they were talking), talking about having kids at 25-30, where you going to have kids if you dont have a career yet, and you are barely an adult right now.
when i was HS, a mother waited too long to change his sons way (future direction) she would often come in during his classes and moniter his classwork for any lowering grade, and would chatised the class “your parents would care this much if they care about his son”, i was thinking, “this bitch, you waited 4years too long to change him, he was dead set on not going to college, when he told us”. shouldve done it before he was in HS, and not waited til he was about to graduate with a low or participation passing gpa(like many people in the hs at the time).(i havnt kept track of him, only saw him once when i was IN CC)