Ol’ girl goes in for her colectomy tm. In for a week +.
Bit worried about the recovery as she weighs bugger all. Definitely not going in in the best of shapes. I’ve locked horns w/ the ol’ boy way too many times but the main thing is food.
Dude can’t cook and that will be a problem.
How the fuck you can go through life and best you can do is a crumpet or overdone steak is beyond me. Hasn’t even tried once.
I understand that generation is a bit different w/ gender roles etc. but following a recipe isn’t exactly hard.
Ffs, drop the ‘it’s a womans job’ shit mentality and learn. Seriously stuck in the 1950’s.
Thanks for reading my rant.
10/10 rant except for the part where it is a very real problem 😔 the dickhead husband of my favourite aunt is a bit like this - he can cook some very basic meals and a couple of overspiced dishes. But it doesn’t matter how sick his wife is, he cooks when he feels like it (esp if there are guests to show off to), but she is expected to always cook. Really grinds my gears. Your old man might need a bit of a slap in the face about the reality of the situation…
Local council might have assistance available - especially if it’s only for meals. If money’s no object, then hiring someone to come in and cook every couple of days might be a useful way to deal with this.
Aren’t those meal kit boxes pretty simple? Helofresh
They’re not really that simple, they do the planning and provide the ingredients but there is still a lot of actual cooking and chopping involved. They also don’t do single meals, so you either need to work out how to divide it over a couple of nights cooking or have a lot of leftovers.
The kit is fine. The problem here is actually turning the kit into food. Hot liquids, stove elements etc. suck a big one when vision/balance/grip strength is impaired. Remembering my mother when she started her final decline - all the elbows of her cardies were burned through where she’d brushed them too close to the stove element … it amazed us all that she didn’t get seriously burned but that was the point where she had to go into residential care to keep her away from the stove.
I went through similar stuff with my parents and I do remember a dr explaining to me that people that age are unlikely to change their ways (probably after I’d expressed frustration about the situation), which was very hard to get my head around.
Could you stock the house up with microwaveable soups and meal packs (there’s a few companies that deliver). Hospitals also have social workers who can help, although if your dad is in the medical field I suspect he’d be resistant to ‘being told what to do’. Mine definitely was.
Could you enlist one of his mates or a rellie to have a quiet word? Or could your mum spend a bit of recovery time in a rehab place, if that’s an option?
I reckon you’re across all these things but just putting them out there. Sending healing thoughts for your mum and hugs for you - it’s such a difficult situation.
Light and easy are well tolerated by my older clients.
get lots of ready made frozen meals
call Meals on Wheels
then let him fend for himself
of course the worry will be he will expect Ol’ Girl to cook once she’s back home
expect Ol’ Girl to cook
Yep.
The problem is she can only eat soup, which he won’t eat. Expecting her to cook 2 different things in recovery is just not reasonable. She wants to be seen that she’s cooking (as weird as that sounds) but she’s increasingly making poor decisions in the kitchen.
The expectation that she cooks for him has been there for decades and it’s pretty much dangerous now (hot liquids / poor eyesight / weak etc.).
Made a whole bunch in the last few days so she’ll be fine. Just pisses me off there hasn’t been an effort by ol’ boy.
Is it possible that she could stay with someone during her recovery from major surgery and/or palliative care to protect her from this?
This is really not a safe or reasonable expectation - especially if he’s able bodied and simply considers the job beneath him.
Woke up with migraine at 4am.
Pray for mojo.
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and gentle hugs
26 years ago, when I was in prep/grade 1, our dance/music teacher had us sing and dance to Aquarius/Let the Sunshine In
26 years later, having never heard the song since, I can still remember how it goes.
I reckon every Aussie school kid starts tapping their foot out when they hear Nutbush.
I wish Tina Turner had come to Australia and done the dance lol
Time to play the song and see if you can remember the dance too
cheesemares again
Hugs! I had weird dreams about moving house but my work was organising it and they wouldn’t let me put my coats into a cupboard, the director kept insisting it should be a reading room instead. It was a cupboard!
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Daylesford was cold as hell, but I lived
That’s why you need to have a cozy cottage with a fireplace in Daylesford.
It is possible to freeze your arse off in Daylesford.
Saturday housework (indoors and outdoors).
Wanted to chill in the afternoon but fam wanted to go to High Point (kill me). At least food and coffe were okay AND it was indoors.
Yesterday wanted to chill, but son wanted to go to the gym and my neighbour asked me for some help (he’s a good one, so of course I obliged).
Working from home today but cannot be arsed going a damn thing.
My turn to be out on the Bellarine today for work. Ccccold. Wimdy
Also wish I could just hop over the bay it would be so much faster. Not looking forward to the 1.5hr drive back.
On a related note, why the fuck does a modern SUV (2022) with all the driver assist shit not have automatic lights, with the lit-up display I nearly started driving without my lights on while it was dark out. Idiotic
I thought all new cars had an auto light setting? I imagine it’s something you’d have to select, no?
That’s what I thought, hell, even my old 2011 hatchback has auto lights but this damn car does not have it as an option. Behold:
Why??!! And you’d think the solution is to then leave it set to on all the time (as the lights switch off when the car is turned off anyway), but some fool at work keeps changing it back to off grrr
Okay that’s kind of funny. I guess old mate at work thinks that if you leave it on, the lights will be on all the time and the battery will drain?
In my subaru the lights went off with the car. In my toyota the lights stay on.
My old work Ranger would have light stay on, my current Toyota they turn off. I prefer the off option.
No idea. Maybe he’s just used to doing it with his own car (which is much older, presumably like my old car - has no auto lights and lights don’t switch off when the ignition is off). But really, bad design to begin with. Just have an auto lights option, Subaru!
Been > a month since I’ve been down. Miss the place but not (!) looking forward to the weeds. Chilli patch is probably 90% oxalis by now :(
Yeah looking like prime weed weather these days. I am also traipsing through rows of rubbishy windbreaks dodging African boxthorn and mats of trad.
day off today, no painting or hard housework , that’s why I painted my nails sparkly orange last night
Oooh that’s such a pretty colour! Excellent sparkle coverage! What brand?
Colour.
Trying and failing to turn off the sun
The news feels like foreshadowing in a bad apocalypse movie and I still need to go to work
It felt a bit like this when I was working on my thesis preso yesterday. Does any of this matter? Maybe we will be in WW3 by the end of this week. Whatever…
It reminds me of this meme I saw when COVID started of a Venn diagram of ‘still having to go to work’ and ‘the end of the world’. It feels like we’re in that overlap again
I’m desperately trying to ignore it all.
US politics
Israel has gone for Iran which I saw in passing, and looking now apparently the US might get involved. I don’t really like discussing US politics but kind of wishing we weren’t allied right about now
Yeah, Iran, the protests, the military parade. It sucks to know we’re on the side of the bad guys. It feels like one of those Lenin decade weeks so let’s hope for a similar revolution
Plus ICE, and reporters being shot with rubber bullets.
…I dunno about that part. Didn’t the revolution eventually result in Stalin? :/
Good night everyone. Sweet dreams. 😘
Took the day off. If I feel better later I’ll jump back online.
Fuck this.
Woke up feeling great. Getting lightly loaded on hot toddys and a bit of weed seems to have done the trick. Thanks for all the advice.
I called in sick and my manager made me feel like a jerk for it 😭
I hate that attitude from managers. Hope you’re resting up!
ah yes, the reaction of people when you show up with The Cane. grrrrrr.
god dammit I was going to start on the garage this week
