The phrase ‘women let men have sex with them’ bothers me. It frames sex as something women permit men to do, rather than a mutual choice both partners actively make.
In a relationship sex is (or should be) a mutual expression of attraction, love, desire, acceptance, understanding.
The idea that women “let” men have sex with them is problematic because it frames intimacy as something one person grants another, like a favour, rather than a shared experience. In healthy relationships, sex isn’t about permission or transactions—it’s about mutual desire and connection.
The word “let” also subtly reinforces old stereotypes, where men are seen as chasing sex and women as controlling access to it. Relationships work when both partners feel equally free to express what they want, say no without pressure, and see intimacy as something they create together. Consent is an ongoing dialogue where both people check in, respect boundaries, and prioritise each other’s comfort.
Ultimately, sex shouldn’t feel like a performance or a prize. It’s about vulnerability, trust, and collaboration. Good relationships thrive when both people feel heard, valued, and free to be themselves without rigid roles.
I’m of course not suggesting that there are any indications that Melania and Donald have anything approximating what could be called a good relationship.
The small amount of comprehension you showed in the last paragraph made the entire soap box unnecessary. Context is important here. The entire point is that Melania has never wanted sex with trump, and has never enjoyed it, but just allows it to happen under certain circumstances. It’s the entire theme of the mockery.
I’m not the person you’re responding to, but tbh, though I wouldn’t ever describe my relationship in those terms, it seems like they might be true to their dynamic.
You know, I would love to agree with you, but that’s just not the case for many husbands in hetero relationships. I watched my wife’s libido fall through the floor after the birth of our child. After years of therapy and communication and commitment to the relationship, we got it back from once every two months to almost once every week, and that’s the max she said she’s willing to commit to at the moment. I’d be more content with 2-3 times that.
Some tropes exist because there’s a bit of them grounded in reality.
I think you’re not comprehending the commenters point.
It’s not saying that men and women have exactly the same desires and necessities. It’s saying that framing sex as something that men do to women is problematic.
I watched my wife’s libido fall through the floor after the birth of our child.
Some things I’ve heard along these lines can be exhaustion from the responsibility of caring for a child. I’m not accusing you of anything, but you might meditate for a minute on what household and childcare tasks you do versus her, and consider how that might have an impact.
That’s not a woman thing. That’s a human thing. People’s libido is extremely variable throughout their lives, and compared to other people’s. I know many hetero relationships where (luckily for me) the masculine member is not interested in sex but their partner is. Your wife doesn’t have a low libido because she is a woman!! That’s insane.
I think the main difference is that men feel entitled to sex, and women just deal.
The phrase ‘women let men have sex with them’ bothers me. It frames sex as something women permit men to do, rather than a mutual choice both partners actively make.
In a relationship sex is (or should be) a mutual expression of attraction, love, desire, acceptance, understanding.
The idea that women “let” men have sex with them is problematic because it frames intimacy as something one person grants another, like a favour, rather than a shared experience. In healthy relationships, sex isn’t about permission or transactions—it’s about mutual desire and connection.
The word “let” also subtly reinforces old stereotypes, where men are seen as chasing sex and women as controlling access to it. Relationships work when both partners feel equally free to express what they want, say no without pressure, and see intimacy as something they create together. Consent is an ongoing dialogue where both people check in, respect boundaries, and prioritise each other’s comfort.
Ultimately, sex shouldn’t feel like a performance or a prize. It’s about vulnerability, trust, and collaboration. Good relationships thrive when both people feel heard, valued, and free to be themselves without rigid roles.
I’m of course not suggesting that there are any indications that Melania and Donald have anything approximating what could be called a good relationship.
The small amount of comprehension you showed in the last paragraph made the entire soap box unnecessary. Context is important here. The entire point is that Melania has never wanted sex with trump, and has never enjoyed it, but just allows it to happen under certain circumstances. It’s the entire theme of the mockery.
I’m not the person you’re responding to, but tbh, though I wouldn’t ever describe my relationship in those terms, it seems like they might be true to their dynamic.
You know, I would love to agree with you, but that’s just not the case for many husbands in hetero relationships. I watched my wife’s libido fall through the floor after the birth of our child. After years of therapy and communication and commitment to the relationship, we got it back from once every two months to almost once every week, and that’s the max she said she’s willing to commit to at the moment. I’d be more content with 2-3 times that.
Some tropes exist because there’s a bit of them grounded in reality.
I think you’re not comprehending the commenters point.
It’s not saying that men and women have exactly the same desires and necessities. It’s saying that framing sex as something that men do to women is problematic.
Fair enough, I support that sentiment.
Some things I’ve heard along these lines can be exhaustion from the responsibility of caring for a child. I’m not accusing you of anything, but you might meditate for a minute on what household and childcare tasks you do versus her, and consider how that might have an impact.
That’s not a woman thing. That’s a human thing. People’s libido is extremely variable throughout their lives, and compared to other people’s. I know many hetero relationships where (luckily for me) the masculine member is not interested in sex but their partner is. Your wife doesn’t have a low libido because she is a woman!! That’s insane.
I think the main difference is that men feel entitled to sex, and women just deal.
::slow clap:: ::tear::
Well said.
This reads like incel copium.