• Katana314@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    All of that is true, and doesn’t contradict what I was saying at all.

    I wasn’t interpreting anything as an “open invitation”.

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      2 days ago

      Any woman knows this - many changed over to squatting to pick things up even when alone. So, if she’s okay with a full bend, even if the guy barely even looks, it’s a separate “trust kink” - that she knows he’s there and doesn’t anticipate his mind objectifying her that way.

      What does any woman know? What is a woman communicating if she’s okay with a full bend?

      Please elaborate.

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        2 days ago

        A woman knows that:

        Obviously, peering at someone’s ass can lean towards creepy or voyeuristic.

        (The part of the quote you snipped out). Bending over is easier, but many women change to squatting, a trickier action, specifically because of how they’re viewed when doing so.

        So, if a woman is in the vicinity of a guy, and chooses to bend over, she’s communicating that she at least trusts that person enough not to ogle or objectify her. Guys don’t experience a lot of trust from women in the modern day (generally for understandable reasons) so it’s touching for them to know when people feel safe around them.

        I’m sorry that wasn’t communicated well; but I appreciate you asking for clarification.

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          2 days ago

          specifically because of how they’re viewed when doing so.

          Viewed by whom? Why are women viewed a certain way when they bend over?

          I need to make this really clear to you - a woman bending at the waist is not communicating that she trusts the people in the room. She is not doing so knowing that you will look at her ass. She is simply existing as a woman.

          Please do not move forward in your life assuming that women are subtly signaling to people that they are welcoming being objectified and sexualized.

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            2 days ago

            Please do not move forward in your life assuming that women are subtly signaling to people that they are welcoming being objectified and sexualized.

            Okay, I’m through with this. I in no way said, or implied, this statement, even going so far as to make the opposite stance, and I’m done trying to express that here.

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              2 days ago

              So, if a woman is in the vicinity of a guy, and chooses to bend over, she’s communicating…

              Women aren’t communicating with people this way, either for or against being objectified.

              That’s my point.