Everyone should own one of these.
Extroverts dont have that AFAIK
They have it the other way around
They can just leave it at full.
I came in here for a store link. 🤣
Look up “social battery level pin” (through eg. Qwant or Startpage, and don’t use an Amazon link or such). You’ll find it.
Imagine a barista with a pin that says “Here are some of the soft skills that this job demands and which I lack.”
Yeah, this really is one of those things where if you’re not okay with a little idle chatter, it’s probably not the right job. And I say that out of admiration for baristas and other service workers. I tried working a service sector job when I was young and I didn’t last long. I just wasn’t any good at it.
I feel bad for folks who are introverted and not particularly strong. Almost every job with a low barrier to entry demands a lot of physical or emotional labour.
Someone has seen that in german? Hard to find in all that noise of psychology books.
I’d quite like one of these so I can adjust it down when someone says “happy Friday”.
And it has a sharp point on the pin for when someone uses “a case of the Mondays”.
isn’t that how batteries work though
“how are you doing?”
“I’m alright”
“Oh, just alright?”
Social battery falls to zero
Mine would always be red.
Well maybe if you remember to plug it in every once in awhile
So that’s what I was doing wrong, just needed to use a plug to recharge!
Yeah, just make sure to plug it into the right port this time.
An icepick counts as a plug, right?
This plug is not meant to enter an electric socket, mind you!
Red = asshole mood, Green = asshole mood, Wearing pin at all = asshole
if everything smells like shit wherever you go, it’s time to look at the bottom of your own shoes…
~(i’m saying you’re the asshole)~It isn’t supposed to say “I don’t want to talk to you”, but rather “I’d love to talk to you, but I’m exhausted”. They’ll also probably still talk to you, but just won’t be able to be as energetic.
How is 🙂 an asshole mood though?
Red = I inform people on my current mental state
Green = I inform people on my current mental state
Wearing pin at all = I inform people on my current mental state
Taking care of yourself is step 1 to being good to others. Ignoring your depletion only leads to growth of anger and worsening relationships with people around you. Ain’t it better to let them know you’re not in the mood and this has nothing to do with them personally?
This is about the most asinine, self-centered thing I have ever read. Do you think this employee is going to check the mood of each customer? Hell no. The customer comes first and if an employee of mine showed up with this one morning to work, they would be asked to remove it, as it is a distraction from the goods and services I am offering. Keeping a job is taking care of oneself, and taking care of the customers, including interacting with their requests, no matter how tiresome and mundane, is part of the job. If everyone had a pin on like this, everyone would be constantly looking at each others pins thinking, “ Oh, can I talk to them today?, oh my, I hope I am not stressing them”.
Grow up or get a job you don’t have to talk to people.
It would absolutely be nice to regulate your expression based on how another person feels. That’s basic empathy and compassion.
And even as a customer, I do care about people who deliver services to me, and do not want to make their day worse. Moreover, I think treating workers as something more than soulless dispensers might bring us all closer together, and help us understand each other, which ultimately leads to more love and care in the world and less isolation - which, in turn, is considered to be one of the primary ways to combat mental health crises.
There is no mention of any regard for the customer. Is the mental health of the customer important in this instance, at all? This is a popular post and there is obviously a generational difference of opinion, for me. It is about being polite vs. look at me and read my pin. There is no interest here in how the customer is doing. It is like saying ”you’re welcome” vs “no problem”. In my world, “you’re welcome” is the proper choice of respect and “no problem” comes across as rude and uncaring.
It is important! No matter what, an employee must be polite and do their job. Moreover, the customer can have a pin as well, which may dictate how they should be approached.
The most asinine, self-centered thing I’ve seen today has got to be you assuming that the emotional state of your employees, which the goods and services you offer depend on for sales, is something that they should simply magically suppress for the sake of customers.
Do you think this employee is going to check the mood of each customer?
Buddy, if every customer going through the checkout line at the grocery store I work for had this pin on, it would make judging how much small talk people want loads easier, and would save me, and them, a huge mental headache. That said, if only I were to choose to wear that pin, I don’t think indicating to customers how up I am for small talk would make me an asshole.
If you were my boss, and wanted to deliberately disregard my mental state because you felt it would make you a few more bucks, that would make you the asshole.
Get your priorities straight.
Have a great day and thanks for the advice.
Who fucking beat you as a kid? Good god.
Imagine getting this pent up and angry OVER A FUCKING PIN. Im sorry but if that’s the way you act over a piece of metal, that’s entirely a you problem. If you get mad because someone wants to express how they currently feel at the time, THAT’S ON YOU. Its fine to disagree, but being a mega dick about it is another fucking ballgame. No wonder customers prolly dont fucking like you.
The pin may not even fucking be for the customers, It could be for SHIT coworkers like you who act like fucklords over someone elses business. You’re the type of person that if you were a teacher and saw a child using a sparkly, decorated pencil or showing a shoulder, You’d shit yourself screaming before sending them to the principal’s office.
It’s obvious here you don’t need the pin, your personality is enough for people to go “Yikes! I really don’t wanna talk to this guy”
I like you, Cock_Inspecting_Asexual. You have a way with words.
Daw thanks :3
You’re fired. You know nothing about me. Bye. 👋🌈 Blocked.
Oh no, I’m fired from a job I never got and a job you never managed. Sobsob
Guess that hit too close to home for ya huh?
I was thinking about gamifying spoon theory in a similar manner.
It’s in Balatro style. Normally, you have a limited number of spoons each day, which you need to spend on doing things. If you overspend one day, it will raise your burnout levels and your meltdown chance, as well as having less spoons for the next few days. However you can gain various extra spoons and/or kitchen utensils, so you can have a better chance at surviving the day.
One spoon is enough for me thanks
I’m literally eating with my hands right now.
spoon theory
Thanks for introducing me to a new concept (or at least a term for it), always nice to learn something new.
I’m a big proponent of fork theory.
Basically, fork this shit we are all forking forked.
Isn’t spoon theory just a convoluted way of saying you have limited energy for daily life activities?
Yes but for some reason when you tell people you don’t have energy they don’t believe you. Because they think mental energy is an infinite resources you can just force out or something
Yes. Why spoons? Makes no sense.
I like to use D&D’s concept of spell slots. Some activities are cantrips, I can do them every day no problem. Other activities may need a leveled spell slot, and depending on what else I need to do I might not have a spell slot available, or may need to use a higher level spell slot for a low-level activity.
Main difference is a long rest IRL doesn’t always give me all my spell slots back.
From the wiki, the idea comes from an essay that somebody has written about a conversation they had with a friend about the struggles of chronic illness. The conversation took place at a restaurant, and she grabbed the spoons for use in a metaphor because there were spoons nearby. She gave her friend a set of spoons, and every time her friend mentioned doing a task, she took a spoon away.
It could have been anything, but spoons happened to be at hand and she wanted to make a physical representation of an abstract concept. The essay resonated with people, so spoons became entrenched. And now I hear people say that they’re all out of spoons to express the idea that they’ve done all that they can that day.
Oh. I thought it was supposed to be about how hard it would be to do stuff while carrying around spoons in your hands all day.
I think it is a case of using a purposefully absurd metaphor because more straight forward ones are too obviously in conflict with basic immutable, toxic aspects of people’s belief systems (drilled and blasted through in their childhoods) that function to labotomize their empathy for the hardships of others.
You know how like other cultures use fairy tales and myths to talk about taboos or impossible truths so does “western” culture use the absurd framework of spoons to talk about the “impossible” state of being incapable of what the ruling class demands of us daily.
Poké Ball Theory
Why is the side that says “I want to be alone” red and the social side green though?
There is a difference between having a smaller social battery, and being asocial.
this comment broke my brain
Because it’s directed at other people and instructs them on how safe it is to approach you
imagine flirting with someone and she slides her genderfluid pronoun pin from she/her to he/they
Thats gotta be the funniest fucking trans joke I have seen in A LONG TIME.
IM NOT BEING SARCASTIC BTW, I MEAN THIS. God I wish I could give awards…
Is this supposed to be indicating a problem because like if you like a person why should it matter what gender they are?
i honestly have no idea what this would indicate i sorta spat it out automatically like an llm
Ah, okay, thanks for explaining to us.
I thought people agreed about being born gay and stuff? Are you saying you think it’s a choice?
That would be awesome for a person with a compatible gender. Like, you are so interesting and attractive I’m willing to expand my horizons.
Ive been considering getting one of these honestly. as an introvert there are just some days where I really don’t want to talk to people but retail doesn’t care about that and I need money. at least having some kind of gague seems better than just glowering and hoping i don’t have to deal with small talk
You’d just be drawing more attention to yourself… Or inviting a challenge
I’d rather take that then yet another soulless ‘how are you today’
just reply with “no, i’m not”
Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn’t care they shouldn’t have asked.
In Germany “how are you” is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short.
“Wie geht’s?”
“Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?”
People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently.
(That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here…)
i’ve tried that but then we both lose
You don’t think people would go “aww how come you are down? Let me cheer you up”?
It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up. My understanding is the misery, for lack of a better word, is more comforting to many as it reminds them of when they were young (or they emulate what they saw around them as children)
It’s worth realizing some people do not want to be cheered up.
I get that 100% and, although I am sure I made the mistake before, I am trying hard to understand and respect these boundaries
I am just saying I believe wearing such a pin to avoid people would have a noticeable cobra effect
Ahh I get u now. Yeah, that’s totally true
“let me fix that for you”
- drags it to positive
I need this exact pin. You can save some money and make it without any moving parts.
