My ex was Latina, and when we were getting to know each other I mentioned I’m pretty introverted, and I had to explain to her what it meant. She said it doesn’t exist in Latino culture and there are no Latino introverts. I told her she probably calls them alcoholics. That seemed to resonate.
A girl I’m dating fits this person’s stereotypical description of latinas to a T. And she also considers herself introverted 🙄
Wow OP is so cool and different and badass what an intellectual he’s just like batman
Op would love Finland. Only ever talked to one stranger (who is now my wife) and the only thing we shake is the umbrella. And booze, well you will need it too.
introverted and alcoholic? Please tell me more about this wonderful place called Finland
Their mountains so lofty
Their treetops so tall
Eating breakfast or dinner
Or snack lunch in the hall.
Nah they don’t have any mountains in Finland. The trees are great though.
Only ever talked to one stranger
Scandalous!
no. Scandinavian
What is the umbrella reference about?
Umbrella gets wet. Ya shake it. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Is that a Finnish thing or just the first thing you thought to shake?
There is no innuendo if you are looking for an innuendo. He’s literally talking about shaking the rain off an umbrella. He’s happily married and neither his wife nor he like to dance so they don’t shake anything but their umbrella. Get it?
Finnish people do not shake hands.
What else do you shake on a fairly common basis, I suppose you also shake the bottle to get every last drop out. So it’s bottle or umbrella.
Polaroid picture
Hey ya
Oh my god, I feel so dumb. I really thought you had just made a typo and said shake instead of share.
Sharing doesn’t sound possible, or at least would require an unwieldy parasol or something.
I think all of my umbrellas can fit two if a couple, and three if everyone is okay with rubbing torsos.
Mine cant. Even with this latest safety distance-nonsense of just 2 meters.
When you go inside you shake the water out of the umbrella so it doesn’t drip inside your house. Yeah, that’s it, no reference or anything.
Yeah but like, is that somehow Finnish?
Yea finnished being in the rain
I think you’re confused why he brought up shaking anything at all, what you’re missing is that he brought up shaking an umbrella as a reply to the OP image that talks about shaking booty aka dancing.
The Finnish thing is that they don’t shake booty. The umbrella being the only thing they shake was just a way to highlight that they aren’t dancing like Colombians.
It’s worldwide. Everyone around the world who has used an umbrella has shaken rain off an umbrella. Are you an alien from another solar system?
Maybe from Saudi Arabia? No umbrella-shaking in Saudi Arabia.
go to google.
type in “rainy day in Saudi Arabia”
click on images
It’s referencing back to the original post about girls shaking their asses
I felt this way in my own home culture as well. I grew up in a red bubble in a blue state in the US, where the underlying currents were no more than “conformity and hometown pride.” Oddly, the only things to be “proud” of were conformity itself and high school football (the pride-surrogate of adults with nothing better to celebrate.) It was all so hollow, and when 9/11 happened it all turned up to… well, 11. Being 12 and saying, “I don’t think this war makes sense” was enough to ostracize one’s self and be bombarded with the brain-dead argument of, “iF yOu hAtE AMURICA tHeN yOu cAn JuSt LEAVE!” Yeah okay, parrot. It was always obvious the kids just absorbed whatever mindless take their parents said (which was, itself, picked up from other people or Fox News.)
Man, thinking of my hometown always brings out a rant… Anyway, I grew up always feeling like a stranger in my own home, bullied and cast aside for not being like the rest. Thank goodness I was able to GTFO and meet people who use their brains as more than a copy/paste bin for other people’s thoughts.
lol. same upbringing. nobody understands how common this is in most of small town america. probably because they only ‘small towns’ they are familiar with are all the tourist spots, which are not really small town at all because they are full of city people.
i went from being suicidal everyday to actually being happy and feeling good… because i got out. I was in tears i was so happy my first week in college, of being free from all that horrible ignorant bullshit. people really do not get how utterly provincial these places are.
god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge. it was all just deadbeat losers whose biggest goal and achievement in was going to a pro sports game and being bitter about life that other people actually did something with theirs.
sadly a lot of my friends dropped out of college because it was ‘too hard’ to think for themselves and they ended up moving home, getting shitty local jobs usually working for their dad, and just popping out 2-3 kids by 24 and just repeating the cycle.
god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge
lol i know that feeling. that’s why i studied so much, to bring the knowledge into the world.
I grew up in the US from the age of five and the level of culture shock that hit me in kindergarten when no one knew who the fuck Manchester United was and that’s not a real jersey etc etc etc. it had Best on the back and everyone thought it meant i thought I was the best and I still remember that feeling today.
I appreciate anti-fascist a lot but anti-fascists despite also getting opposed for it I appreciate even more.
I read your comment a couple times, scrolled up to the parent comment, and read yours again. I still dont understand what youre saying.
That’s fair, I commented at around 1 am.
I appreciate people who are against fascism, and I REALLY appreciate people who kept to those ideals through hardships.
I understand anon. I understand. 😶
It’s a similar experience being an introvert who isn’t into sports in Australia.
I’m mostly baffled that when people don’t even understand the concept of “not liking sports” I have a lot of smalltalk at work with dudes and it’s always something like: wait, so you have no idea who won the football game? What happened?
Oh i don’t watch football.
Never?
Nope, i have never seen a football match.
Huh. So you just watch the big games.
No, never.
But you watch the World championship.
No.
Not even when your country plays?
Is it still millionaires chasing a ball in a really boring manner? Then still no.
It’s not even just sports, somehow, some people can’t comprehend that someone doesn’t like or even know of “insert mainstream thing”. C’mon, stop pretending you don’t know famous artist who sells out stadiums. For fucks sake, why would i? I maybe read their name at some point or maybe a song was once playing in a mall, but other than that we don’t live the same life.
Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own. The “We won!” crowd. Some other folks have a stronger separation between self and other and don’t have any emotional attachment with some sports team that did something.
Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own.
to be fair, they make financial contributions to the club via merch, ticket sales, etc, which in turn impacts the success a team can achieve by spending that money
I once talked with my date about football and she said, well, when there is a really big game, she likes to watch, otherwise not really. And i asked why, it’s the same game. And she said, she doesn’t really know, she just likes to cheer for a team and hopes that they win. Which i found interesting. It’s like gambling, but boring and stretched out. When i was younger and people asked me what my team was, i always asked which team is the best, or winning, and that was my answer. Then you get so much shit for being a bandwagon fan. Like dude, you are cheering for a team that has been losing for 10 years like your life depends on it, get a grip.
Fine, if you don’t like sports we can talk about the stock market. Tesla and Palantir, bro. Oil futures to the moon. Selling reverse vix puts. Alpha beta gamma I’m going to be rich.
I often think about just fighting fire with fire.
Do you think the God emperor is needed to power the warp or is that juat propaganda?
What do you mean you don’t know warhammer?
So you only know the lore before the warp?
Surely you know the Horus heresy?
That’s weird, there are like 300 books about it.
Do it.
Man, those crypto bros somehow have even less self awareness than the sports dudes
What’s your favorite looks maxxing hammer?
Can’t go wrong with the classic sledge
“Ball-Peen” hehehehe
I hate that the end of every news segment on radio and TV ends in “sports”.
Sports is not fucking news. Stop wasting our fucking time perpetuating a tribalist game
What exactly did you think the political section was about?
Sport is politics in Europe, at least. It’s important who you support because sports clubs are often tied to political movements.
You don’t want to support Lazio, for instance, and Real Madrid was Franco’s club.
Anyway, politics is also a sort of game as you say.
Football hooliganism must be the endgame of “everything is political.” I see it as something to preferably be avoided personally.
Not every European country. I’d wager it’s mostly Southern and Eastern Europe where that is the case.
True, though there’s also FC St. Pauli (antifascist) vs Hansa Rostock (neonazi). Can’t think of anything from Denmark, off the top of my head, or the UK. Not much of a football fan tbh.
In the UK it’s tied to social class rather than political party.
indeed, came to point this out, nothing much has changed in 1000s of years though. Pie 'n footy os the new Bread 'n Circuses.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bread_and_circuses
Juvenal originally used it to decry the “selfishness” of common people and their neglect of wider concerns. The phrase implies a population’s erosion or ignorance of civic duty as a priority
Loving in Has main a the biggest concern of the public is a es AFL football stadium and yet we have the worst health outcomes, the worst educational outcomes etc etc
Loving in Has main a the biggest concern of the public is a es AFL football stadium
Have a small aneurysm there?
must’ve played too much AFL
I’m an ambivert. I’m also not particularly into watching a good percentage of sports, but I’ll pretty much go to anything if a friend asks if I want to join them going to an event or even just watch it with them somewhere.
Doesn’t really just apply to sports either, up for anything really: gigs, art exhibitions, hikes, cinema, visiting a random town for some reason, you name it.
Firstly, I can’t exactly knock something until I’ve given it a good go, but more importantly for me, it’s time I get to spend with one/some of my mates and might result in some good memories. Reminder that introversion is not the same thing as social anxiety, introverts generally also like to hang out with their friends.
Plus I also like photography, so random days out are a good way to get pictures you wouldn’t otherwise.
Oh yeah, I definitely know the difference between social anxiety and introversion. Social anxiety is when it’s intensely uncomfortable to even talk to my dad, or my partner. Introversion is being capable of having a nice day all on my own, but still being totally up for hanging out with friends, as long as I get time alone often enough in between.
Ironically I even like sporting events if me and my friends are actually there in the stadium. The feel of the crowd is magical. But that’s not really about the sport
And extroverts can be socially anxious. I need to go out and talk to people and do things, but fuck am I awkward about it
To be fair, if you go out to a loud party you’re not likely to meet many introverts there - they’ll all be at home, unless their own extravert friend dragged them out to the party.
Was going to say, I’ve been to more than a few parties with the Introvert Corner. Half a dozen folks just hiding in the kitchen or on the patio, trying to survive the night with minimal social contact.
I wish that would become an official thing. Someplace quiet and with dim lighting that isn’t because people don’t want to see closely the making out, but because the room is better with some darkness.
anywhere densely populated really
Oh god. Very close to me. Exactly why I left and refuse to date latinas and for the most part make friends with latinos.
A bit over the top tho. You can definetly be a ladies man even if you don’t dance. Not easy as if you dance, but totally doable.
Now to the serious thing:
Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn’t like booty.
Before you downvote me, I am Colombian and don’t really dance to anything remotely latinFake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn’t like booty.
😔
While not the stereotypical extrovert, I experience the opposite in my country.
I think, on a world wide scale, I would be considered very introverted, but by Danish standards I’m too social. I’ve become more introverted over time because it is too exhausting trying to get something going with people around me. Danes make all their friends in their youth and then they close the gates at 30 and never allow in any other new friendships or acquaintances ever again. And if they do, it’s against their will.
We moved into a new neighborhood five months ago, and I still don’t know anyone. Our closest neighbors have politely demonstrated that they desire to not know me despite my attempts at getting to know them and I am self aware enough to know when to just let it go and avoid thing becoming uncomfortable.
It really sucks, because I always dreamed of having good relationships with my neighbors and inviting people over for cook outs or something. But Danes are hermit crabs.
I had it confirmed when I befriended a Ukrainian refugee who told me that in the two years he had been a refugee in Denmark, I had literally been the only Dane to bother to get to know him and been friendly and open to him. Told him that I’m also a very shitty Dane.
So yeah, I dunno what it’s like to be an introvert stuck in an extrovert society. But I do know what it’s like to be extroverted introvert in a hyper introverted society and that sucks as well, because you end up becoming very, very lonely if you don’t hit the jackpot with evergreen friendships when you still have your milk teeth.
As someone from the northern European countryside, you’ll never fully fit in. You need to have at least several generations of
incestfamily ties to be seen as a true native. Best you can hope for is “they’re alright for outsiders, I guess”.What helps, if you want to fit in better, is joining the usual clubs. At my place, that meant (for men at least) things like voluntary firefighters, men’s choir, and tennis/football clubs. Also, show up on traditional festivities and events, and be prepared to drink. Functional alcoholics are suspicious of people who don’t drink with them, so if you cannot or don’t want to keep up with them, excuse yourself early and say you need to drive/take care of your kids/work tomorrow early.
Actually, half of that advice goes for any context, not just rednecks.
I’m not sure if I communicated things properly in my first comment, but based on yours, it almost sounds like you think I’m a foreigner, which I’m not! :D I’m Danish born and bred. Sorry if I was unclear, but that was kind of the point of my original comment, that I’m somewhat of an outgoing person in a hyper introverted society.
I will also say that while I do crave social connections, I’m not interested in meeting new people just for the sake of it.
I have plenty of good friends and a nice social network. The thing is that the closest friend to me lives an hour away. The furthest one lives on a different continent. I have often joked that the closer friend I am to someone, the further away they live.
So for me, the goal is to just become friendly with neighbors. Not to go out and join a bunch of clubs or festivals or go to pubs and meet people there.
When it comes to alcohol, I would be cool with having neighbors over for a beer in the garden or something like that, but I’m not going partying with people who are “functional” alcoholics. I have seen my fair share of people who’ve ended up on that trajectory, and that’s not the type of mess I want to invite into my life.
As for joining clubs and such, there isn’t a lot of interesting clubs in my area and those that seem interesting are at least an hour away. And that’s part of the problem, because the people I’d potentially meet there, will most likely also live far away and then I have done nothing but add to the list of friends who live too far away for casual, neighborly relationships.
I think your suggestions are fine for someone who just moved to Denmark and have zero network and just needs to get out there and look for anything and everything to build a foundation on. That’s not me, though xD
This is all from my experience as someone who moved to the countryside as a kid, so, feel free to disregard anything that does not match your situation. I am writing this in the hope that it’s useful, but knowing that it might not apply. I have never lived in Denmark, and if the people are similar to Frisians, I can imagine how it is.
I am not sure if I misunderstood you or not. I am born in this country as well, as are my parents and their parents, we all look clearly European, speak the regional dialect and so on. But we made the mistake of moving from a city to a village about 60km away. That already means we count as foreigners in the minds of many people.
If your family does not have ties to the village you are in, or at least to the neighbouring villages, you are a foreigner. Of course, it is mostly old and grumpy people, but it is what it is, sadly. It’s even more stupid than the “normal” racism.
As for joining clubs and such, there isn’t a lot of interesting clubs in my area and those that seem interesting are at least an hour away
No, my point was this: if you want to be part of the “in group”, join the local club. Even if you don’t like it, if you think the people are stupid or if you are not interested in the topic. The goal is not to find new friends, the goal is to be seen as “Nangijala from the tennis club” and not “Nangijala who just moved here, 20 years ago”. Even then, some particularly stupid people will barely tolerate you, be prepared that they’ll still do some things without you because your parents did not go to the same primary school.
Then, of course, there is the whole idea about not having the same interest. Narrow-minded people are narrow-minded, and with the local club or tradition, the goal is to be part of the group. It’s fine to have weird interests, as long as you have some things other people and you can connect on.
but I’m not going partying with people who are “functional” alcoholics
Your mileage may vary, and certainly, things are moving in the right direction even compared to 10, 20 years ago. Over here, heavy drinking is quite socially accepted, because many people are unable to have a genuine conversation or be interesting while sober. A few permille of beer, and they will be more accepting, open, and “funny”. Unfortunately, it is the great social lubricant, and some people never learned to enjoy company while sober. I also don’t really see the point in that, I am not against alcohol and the effects of a beer or three in good company, but I’ve seen it being pushed to another level in village festivities.
On the other hand, growing up in this kind of culture, I’ve now been forged into the rare introvert who can dance, sing, and has amazing people skills when needed.
It’s draining, but useful.
Vulcan ambassador: “I am getting a good grade in party, a thing that is normal to want and possible to achieve.”
As a Brazilian, I can relate
Move to England, we will still think you are an extrovert
In Finland you’ll be treated for mania
